An unexpected text. In 3 lines the perception of someone I thought was a trusted friend was shattered. Today’s technology can deliver unexpected blows when a message is misdirected.
How hard it is when our perception of a relationship is changed. Once upon a time I was a classroom teacher, I watched relationship disappointment happen over and over again among my students. It’s perhaps expected in the teen years, but in the over forty crowd, it’s disappointing.
We are all imperfect. Personally I want to be the kind of person who always believes the best of others. Who greets the day with a smile and an open heart. It’s a choice that I actively choose. I am also a feeling person, a person who appreciates friendship and values those I consider friends.
Three lines left no room for misunderstanding of the individual’s position and it was evident that the relationship we shared was not friendship.
Healthy boundaries matter. There was a time I would have died emotionally for 3 lines of words. I would have been sick to my stomach wondering why the person felt this way. However, these days I am aware that satan plays hard ball with folks and he uses other people to sometimes throw his daggers. I do not enjoy the company of every individual and other people do not have to enjoy the company of me. Case closed.
My Grandfather Geddie would have said “People talk about you every.single.day. When someone hurts your heart consider:
a. Is it true?
b. Is it from a perspective that is different than I have considered? Often an offense is taken because their position was not considered. However, some individuals are simply hurting, and hurt people hurt others.
c. Is there communication needed to make peace or is it truly none of my business what they thought? (most of the time, what others think and will not say to us, is not our business)
As the fall begins this month, I am aware that like the trees, there are some experiences I simply need to shed and let go their way as the leaves fall from the trees. When others hurt your heart, it is my prayer that you feel the pain, then take it to the Father to release the pain and let his love heal your wound and minister to your heart.