I used to have Mother’s Day built up in my mind to be this perfect day where everyone doted on me…where I got to sleep in as long as I wanted, have breakfast in bed, be greeted with fresh flowers, kind words, and thoughtful gifts…a day where everyone would get along and all would be blissful.
Year after year, the disappointment would come and I would try to hide it, but I didn’t very well. Feelings would get hurt and we would move onto Father’s Day in hopes that my husband would feel more honored and supported on his special day than I did on mine.
One year, I made the decision that I would drop the expectations I had for Mother’s Day and instead do for myself what I wished everyone would do for me.
I began to take more time in the garden cultivating the flowers and made fresh bouquets to bring inside and enjoy on a daily basis, not just Mother’s Day. Do you enjoy flowers? Why not bet some for yourself this week?
Another thing I did was purchase a beautiful wicker tray for having breakfast in bed. Now, I can enjoy breakfast in bed anytime I choose, even if it’s just tea and toast that I’ve made for myself. Sometimes, I have helped get everyone ready for the day and then have gone back and enjoyed my breakfast in bed with a nice book and a cup of my favorite herbal tea. Is breakfast in bed something you would enjoy?
Those thoughtful gifts I longed for became very specific lists on Amazon so that my family would know the things I would enjoy. Allowing others to know your preferences helps them show love for you through gifting without the stress of agonizing over what you may or may not like. Have you told your friends and family what’s on your list?
I’ve chosen to take care of me by getting the rest that I need throughout the year not just on “special occasions”. This is something that many mothers struggle with and I can attest to the importance of your own personal health in your ability to nurture and love those you have been blessed with and are called to lead. Are you getting the rest that you need to feel great and serve well?
My high expectation for kind and adoring words from others lessened as I learned to affirm myself more and spend greater time with God in His word. Daily time with God is something I still struggle with prioritizing, but I have found that has I lean into Him and His promises for me, I have less of a need to be accepted and affirmed by others. Are there ways that you could make more time for His words and less time for the words of the world?
What kinds of things could you do for yourself to make this Mother’s Day week and everyday more lovely for yourself? You are the one that must decided the kind of beautiful life you want to live and then you must have the courage to live it.
Here’s to you and your Belle Belle Vie!! Happy Mother’s Day!!